"ERA Justin Realty
clients are my focus,” words of sales professional Kristen Davis. She is well
recognized throughout Bergen County and has been part of their team for nearly
ten years transferring from a local Century-21 firm. Kristen offers summer
relocation tips for kids.
ERA Justin's Kristen Davis offers Summer
Relocation Tips for Kids
Kristen
Davis, an active and focused sales professional with ERA Justin Realty offers
South Bergenite readers, important tips on Relocation for kids. “Every
year millions of families move. One of the most important issues to anyone with
kids is their reaction to the news that they're moving and their adjustment to
the new home. Being informed is very important to children. One of the worst
mistakes we can make as adults is to assume that kids don't care or won't
understand the details. Keeping them 'in the loop,' consulting them about
choices whenever possible, and including them in the family game plan will work
wonders toward their adjustment.” Other
factors depend on a child's age, she continued:
“Preschool children
Kids
under the age of six may worry about being left behind, or being separated from
their parents. If you go on an orientation or house-hunting trip before hand
without the children, it's important to reassure kids this age that you will be
back; bring something unique back to them from the new town. It's also very
important for them to express their feelings about the move. Give them a job to
do - have them be responsible for boxing up their favorite toys, and 'labeling'
their boxes with crayons and stickers.
Ages 6 to 12
Elementary
age kids are usually most concerned with how the everyday routines of their
lives are going to change. Showing them pictures, videos and magazines of their
new home will help a lot, especially if you can find new places in advance for
the things they like to do. If your child takes dance lessons, find and share
information about the new dance studio she can go to. If he takes karate, or
plays soccer or baseball bring that information home. Even if her favorite thing to do is the park
or the pizza parlor, find these places in your new neighborhood and get
brochures, pictures or videos.
Teenagers
Teenagers are
most concerned with fitting in. They may react angrily to the move, even insist
they're not going. This is usually due to the total lack of control they have
over everything important in their lives - friends, school and jobs - being
disrupted. These children can be very worried about making new friends, and what
will be different in the new school. They are curious about the clothing,
hairstyles, bicycles, cars, etc. that kids in the new city will have. Pictures
of all these things are very helpful, so if you take an orientation trip be sure
to take many detailed photos/videos of the schools they will be
attending.
Other tips for making the
transition
- Give young children an entertaining travel kit for the move.
- Give older children a diary for recording the trip and move.
- Give children of all ages a special address book and stationery set for keeping up with old friends.
- Take videos of the new home if the kids won't get to see it before the move. Arrive well before the movers so kids can explore and become acquainted first.
- Give children a chore to do, such as working on their room (younger), supervising little siblings (middle), and painting or arranging furniture (older kids).
- Take a break with the family as soon as possible to explore the museums, sights and recreation in your new city.
- Arrange a visit to new schools and a meeting with the teacher before the actual first day of attendance.
- Encourage the children to bring new friends home.
Regardless
of when you move, prepare your children well for the transition. By planning
ahead, you'll be able to offer them a few details of what to expect. Give the
kids plenty of opportunity to express their feelings about the move, and their
anxieties about the new school, new friends, teachers, and their sadness at
leaving all that is familiar. Try to find ways to address your own emotional
needs and your stress load so that you appear available to the kids at all
times. Their concerns will only be heightened if they see you with concerns.
Find a balance with yourself and your kids, and keep communication open.
Planning and organizing can help keep stress to a minimum. Keep an eye out for signs of stress and
anxiety in your kids. Different children have different needs, certainly, and
all kids process stress differently. If you do notice acting out or other
behaviors that indicate adjustment problems, talk to the guidance counselor or
the pediatrician about how to proceed.
Share your feelings and encourage the kids to see the move as a family
adventure. You're all in it together. You will all experience emotional ups and
downs, and it's important that everyone understands how normal these feelings
are. Acknowledge the emotions of moving. Looking ahead to the new house, new
school, and new friends should shortly be an exciting
experience.”